Dear Mandy,
My weight keeps fluctuating. I have SOOO many clothes for so many sizes. I feel like I should hold onto them for the inevitable fluctuation, but it’s just too crazy and overwhelming. Do you have any tips for dealing with an overwhelming amount of shit.
Mandysezz: It’s gonna be OK! Put all your clothes in a pile and try going through and trying on each piece. I know this can feel stressful but if you get into it, it can be fun. I often forget about a lot of things, and it can help bring new life to your wardrobe. Make piles for “fits”, “2 big”, “2 small” and another for “NO WAY THIS SUCKS”. Try getting rid of the things you don’t like and are hopeless first. Then work your way through the other piles and give everything a second look through. This is how i deal with an excessive amount of shit. Everyone organizes differently, but when confronted with MOUNTAINS of clothing, i find this works. Good luck :)
Dear Mandy,
My sassy Bolivian boy toy is getting outof control with his personality. He is addicted to showing off his little ass and it’s getting in the way of his studies. How do i bring balance into this situation?
Mandysezz: oo la la! Sounds like you have yourself a lil ball of SEX. You should definitely take advantage of his positive qualities(in this case his A$$). Try and set aside time where he ONLY focuses on work, maybe make him wear some kind of ugly sweat suit to decrease his sexuality? Be creative! There’s nothing wrong with being a little bossy in a relationship. Take charge and have fun with this one. ;}
Dear Mandy,
I just rejoined okcupid. Yesterday I came across a man’s profile. He is extremely handsome and has a nice body. We have the same taste in movies and similar values. He lives in a town nearby. He’s been messaging me since yesterday (like a lot), but we haven’t said one thing about each other or if we’re interested in each other. How do I bring it up with him? Should I even bring it up with him? All his messages are like these long funny paragraphs about what’s going on at a conference he’s at for work. He seems smart, has a really good job, and is dreamy IMO. What should I do next?! I purposely didn’t message him back for like 12 hours because I needed a little break to collect my thoughts and not seem too eager. UGH MANDY, JUST TELL ME WHAT TO DO.
Mandysezz: Okay. Lets get started. The great thing about online dating is- you can dictate the terms. If you want to ask him if he’s interested… go right ahead. There’s less pressure than when you have to have these conversations IRL. You should definitely continue talking, don’t rush anything. Keep this chatting going on for a few days and the subject of hanging out or mutual interest will probably just bring itself up. He sounds like a catch and he’s talking to you for a reason- so are you. See where the conversation goes and if it doesn’t end up where you want it to be by the weekend or early next week.. bring it there. Dating is frustrating whether its online or IRL. There are no easy solutions to how to “get the the ball rolling” other than doing what feels right. Good luck girl!!!
Dear Mandy,
How do I know if my relationship is healthy? Sometimes I just feel so overwhelmed by the smallest things, but when i see other people i feel like “it could be worse”. I might be making a big deal out of nothing but i’m just NOT SURE. I don’t know what i’m doing and i think i might be making things worse.
Mandysezz: sit down and just breath. Every relationship is it’s own, and each person functions differently. Not every persons’ “deal breaker” is the same. You need to set your own personal boundaries. I’m sure you’ve heard this many times before but, a pros vs. cons list could really help you sort out your thoughts. Sometimes its easy to focus on the negative when you are feeling a little down. Be honest with your partner and try to open up to him/her about these feelings. You might be over reacting, or maybe there is some reality to your stress. Stop looking to other peoples relationships to help you figure out your own. Look in the mirror- that’s the person you should be focusing on. Best of luck <3
Dear Mandy,
how do i stay goin to the gym without losing my big butt. i love my butt and i don’t want to lose it. i am worried help me. ;(
Mandysezz: LOVES booty! When exercising, try focusing on your “core muscles” (ie. pelvis, lower back, hips and abdomen). Doing this will help your general physique while only lightly toning your bum. Though losing weight can decrease your BUTT size, your body “type” will most likely remain the same. If you are doing training at home i would try googling “KIM KARDASHIAN ASS WORK OUT VIDS”. I just tried one myself- SO INTENSE…but my ass feels GREAT. It sounds like you’re doing something good for yourself, which is AMAYZZING, and you totally rock for it. Your ass will be there as long as you’re exercising in a healthy and responsible way. you go girl :)
