A beautiful song by Mandy
Dear Mandy,
my friend needs relationship advice… her bf watches porn and it bothers her. Is it just something us girls have to deal with?
Mandysezz: ahhh. the age old question abt men and porn. I think it depends on the relationship. Do you look at porn? Is this something that you could see being a part of your life? I don’t think it has as much to do with wanting to have sex with someone else, as it does being able to provide that sexual release for yourself. I think having a sexual relationship with yourself is a really important part of being in a healthy relationship. I’m saying this based on my life experiences. I’ve also been in situations where I’ve been cheated on(haven’t we all?) and the thought of my man lookin at porn made me MAAADDDD. There might be other issues underneath this one that are just breakin on through. Try and analyze what your exact problem is with the porn and move upward from there. Is this a self esteem issue? Does your man have roaming eyes? Are you not getting any from him? There are a lot of things that this porn issue could just really be the last straw for. Make a diagram if you have to. Regardless of why you have these feelings, you’re totally entitled to it… Don’t forget that a relationship requires compromise even when it comes to things u may not understand. Good luck and write back if you need to!
Dear Mandy,
I must be crazy cus i keep this guy friend of mine in my life who ABSOLUTELY drives me fucking nuts! He’s really obsessed with being cool and just finds a way to talk down to everyone even though he’s a little bitch and i’m getting mad just writing this. lol. I used to be involved with this guy so maybe that has something to do with it. i don’t know how to really cut him off for good though. What do i do?
Mandysezz: gurl. whatr u doin!!????? Get it 2GeThER! This dude sounds annoying…I kind of want to meet him! Ha! It sounds like you still have some feelings for him. Maybe some unresolved issues? You will probably feel a lot better once you drop this dead weight from your life. Do you really enjoy being upset? You might! Sometimes i enjoy a little dramatic fun… Do whatever it takes: block him, delete him, ignore him. Do it all. Do whatever it takes. Be a bitch. Look forward and good luck girl!!!!
Dear Mandy,
I think i’m being sexually harassed at work but it’s kind of a thin line and i just relaly don’t want to be singled out for saying something. It’s like a constant sex conversation with the wait staff where i work, but i’m the only girl. I’m one of 4 girls that works at the restaurant so i just odn’t know if anyone would understand me or if i shoudl just start looking for another job. Maybe i should say something to them but i also don’t want to not have anyone to talk to at work. What would you do?
Mandysezz: If a work conversation is making you feel uncomfortable in any way, you have a legal right to say something. I hate that feeling. It’s hard to feel like you don’t have a financial choice but to sit through something that makes you feel disgusting. If it was me, I would speak to my boss about it and ask him how he would like the situation to be handled(but make sure he knows something needs to be done). I definitely believe in telling people if something they are doing is making you feel uncomfortable, but it’s not a bad idea to have your boss zoned in on the situation in general. If the idea of saying something is too much, keep your eyes out for another job. It’s really important that at some point (whether you decide to stay or leave) you find a way to let the person know how they are making you feel. If there’s anything you can do to turn a negative into a positive, it’s to give those causing you negative feelings a chance to change.
Dear Mandy,
im a freshman in college who has a crush on my the RA on the floor above me. He is a senior… is that just stupid? How should I go about this? He has all the traits I want out of a man, so it’s kind of hard to stop my silly crush from blooming. I know maturity levels are supposedly really different, but I’m not too naive. Should I go for it, or stop before I make a fool of myself? And if I should go for it… how? He’s so wonderful, I’m intimidated.
Mandysezz: There is nothin’ wrong with seekin some lovin from an older m-a-n! Give yourself some credit- you deserve only the best! If the opportunity arises i say you go for it, but if not- it’s totally okay. One of the best parts about being a newly independent woman is learning more about yourself(and NO CURFEW!). There’s this really thin line that’s fun to ride in a new situation- being true to yourself and not being afraid to take chances. There is nothing wrong with having a crush but this is such a cool opportunity for you to really be open, so do that! Date around! Don’t put all yer eggs in this 1 RA’s basket. Boys can be a fun distraction but don’t forget to do you!
